The Love Languages of Deployment

Over the weekend, we attended the Yellow Ribbon Ceremony for Kyle’s unit. I didn’t know exactly what to expect, since this is the first deployment that I’ve been through with him. For those of you who haven’t experienced this yet or aren’t familiar, a Yellow Ribbon Ceremony is for spouses, children, and other family members to gain insight into what their deployed service member will be doing each day, and we can prepare for the separation. We take classes on how to handle emergencies, how to nurture our relationship, OPSEC, benefits, and even care packages. It was a long weekend, but I got some great tips to keep us thriving through this challenging year. Continue reading “The Love Languages of Deployment”

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What They Don’t Tell You About Deployment

I remember the day we found out about Kyle’s deployment like it was yesterday. Since it was the first one, the moment has hung in my mind for a long time. It had been just a normal drill weekend, and I tidied up our apartment while I waited for him to get home. It was a Sunday in August, and the sun was still beaming through our shades as I folded laundry upstairs. I heard the hum of his car as he pulled in the drive, rounding the corner into his usual spot. I listened, as I have many times before, as he pulled his backpack out of the backseat and made his way up the steps. I waited for the nob to turn before making my way to the top of the stairs to greet him. Continue reading “What They Don’t Tell You About Deployment”

What Freedom Means In The United States Of America

I’ve thought about this a lot lately. I think that to some extent, we all have. The world that we live in is changing, and it’s no longer a choice of whether or not we’re along for the ride. It’s happening; the change is here.  Continue reading “What Freedom Means In The United States Of America”

The Vows We Make Long Before Marriage

Marriage is seen as one of the biggest commitments that two individuals can make, next to being parents. You stand before each other, vowing to love one another for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, til death do you part. But it’s so much more than those words. It’s patience, sacrifice, and tolerance. It’s unconditional love, and a promise to share your life with someone forever. Continue reading “The Vows We Make Long Before Marriage”

How Do You Say Goodbye

Sitting here, 10 feet away from my older brother, I see a different man than I used to. He was always the quiet one, the soft one, the sensitive one. I always felt older.

But now I feel small, and young; like we’re 5 and 9 again and I’m looking to him for guidance. Like we’re lost somewhere in the woods after exploring for hours, and it feels okay because he always gets us back. Everything is okay because he has the answers. Continue reading “How Do You Say Goodbye”

5 Things That Happen When a Family Member Deploys

Deployment is complicated to say the least, and it effects every family in a different way. It’s not just a matter of what happens during and after, but all of the “what ifs” that come along with it. It’s hard not to think of the worst possibilities, so the best we can do is prepare for what to expect. Whether it’s a husband, wife, sister, brother, etc., here are the 5 things that happen when a family member deploys. Continue reading “5 Things That Happen When a Family Member Deploys”

When Your SO Has A Dangerous Job

The military is chalk-full of different job options, also known as MOS’s. The scale pretty much moves from somewhat dangerous, to very dangerous, but almost all of them involve some sort of risk. Even when our significant other is home, the worrying doesn’t stop. We worry when they’re in the field, and we worry when they’re just performing their regular duties. We start to realize, on a much deeper level, the gravity of life and death.  It’s hard to know how to deal with that level of stress, and how to help our loved one get through it as well. Continue reading “When Your SO Has A Dangerous Job”

What Fourth of July Means to Us

Among military families, there are some special holidays that we hold near and dear to our hearts. The Fourth of July is certainly one of those days. It’s a day to celebrate the birth of this beautiful, growing nation. A time to look back on the strong men and women of our history who fought for our independence. It’s with bravery, strength, and unwavering determination, that they risked everything to make sure that the American people would have a future. Continue reading “What Fourth of July Means to Us”

Dear U.S. Army, Thank You..

Surprised? Don’t be. All around me I see mixed feelings and emotions towards different branches, and it’s really easy to say that we “hate” them sometimes. Either it’s the “hurry up and wait” or the distance, or all the little things that get under our skin. I certainly understand that level of frustration 100%. But lately I’ve been reminded of some of the wonderful things that the Army has done for Kyle and I. Here’s why I’m saying “Thank You”! Continue reading “Dear U.S. Army, Thank You..”

From Loving a Military Man to Loving a Veteran

Loving a military man is a challenge of its own, one which requires being in a constant state of transition.  But what happens when the routine stops, and the uniform is put away for good?  I know it’s something we all think about, because once you’ve been in this lifestyle for a few years, it’s hard to remember what it was like before the military came along. I vaguely remember a time when we didn’t have uniforms all over the house, and impossible work schedules. When the Army didn’t come first. It can be scary to imagine a life so far from what we’re used to. Continue reading “From Loving a Military Man to Loving a Veteran”