Homecoming is one of the most exciting events for military families. We plan the outfit, we spend hours on the perfect sign with the most creative little phrase we can come up with (thank you, Pinterest). We clean the entire house and do all of the things we said we would do months ago. And we wait..
Scrolling through my news feed on a Sunday morning, I came across an article about the war in the Middle East. Being a military lifestyle blogger, I follow hundreds of organizations that share these types of articles across every platform, with various viewpoints on the topic. As a military spouse myself, I’ve always tried to keep things calm, cool, and collected when it comes to this war, and the non-military/civilian perspective. But this article made me wonder what people really think is going on over there.
The largest age bracket across all branches of the military are ages 20-24. At that age, not many people know a whole lot about money, let alone how to save. Often times, we learn because we make mistakes. We spend some money on going out to dinner a few days in a row, only to find that the washer needs to be replaced. We’ve all been there. But when your spouse is deployed and the flow of money changes, it’s even easier to get off track. Continue reading
In the past 5+ years of my husband being in the military, there are few things that surprise me anymore. Most of the big life-changing events that his service has brought on are things that we could see coming. They were on the horizon all along, like a ticking clock in the back of our minds. And deployment was no exception. Continue reading
Just like that, 9 months have come and gone. It’s been about 40 weeks, 270+ days, 3 whole seasons… It feels like it was sunny and 75 just last week. But here we are, and that light at the end of the tunnel is getting so much brighter. With our time winding down, I’ve kicked it into high gear these last few weeks. Here’s a brief look at what I’ve been up to! Continue reading
The holidays have always been my favorite time of year. From the beautiful lights to the priceless family gatherings, I turn into one of those giddy people that truly sees the “magic” in all of it. My husband and I have always shared this love for the whole season, so with 6,000 miles separating us, we knew this year would be particularly hard. Many military families face the same situation, and the holidays can serve as a heart wrenching reminder of the things that their loved one will miss.
Like many military families, we have dealt with multiple separations during this time of year. It wasn’t always for something as lengthy as a deployment, but no matter the distance or the reason, it was hard. Families going through a separation face a unique set of challenges any time of year. But throw in some cropped Christmas cards and a few, “When are they coming home?” questions, and it can turn us all into Scrooge.
Sometimes we seclude ourselves
It’s hard to see all the together-ness when the one person you want to be with is so far away. For some, this is when we take a step back and we may be drawn into the loneliness. And it might not make sense to those who don’t feel it, because we’re surrounded by all of these people that love us. We want to embrace the joy of the season, but a piece of us is missing. Be patient, and love us even when we act unlovable.
Sometimes we’re angry
I’ve felt a lot of things over the last few months, all the way from pride and happiness to extreme anger and frustration. Sometimes it’s smooth sailing and other times it’s a roller coaster with no seat belt. The holidays are an emotional time as it is, so it’s completely normal for those emotions to be heightened by the chaos, or lack thereof. It’s normal to want to lash out or be angry at the world for a day. You can allow yourself some time to freak out. But the key is to know when to get back up, dust yourself off, pour some wine (or whiskey) and move on from it.
Sometimes we avoid all the feels
This is 100% me this season. Rather than feeling too emotional or pretending to be overly happy, I think I was somewhat numb to it all. Maybe it was too hard to feel anything, or maybe I was overwhelmed and I just shut down. Either way, it’s normal to want to shut it out for a little while. We’re mentally and often physically exhausted from filling all of the roles in our home and personal life. This is the time of year that I heard the most, “I don’t know how you do it” comments, and while that may seem like a compliment or that I should be flattered that you think I’m some kind of superhero, I could do without.
So, whether you’re the one going through this separation or it’s another family down the street, be kind to each other. Be patient and willing to embrace the fact that “this too shall pass”. Let yourself feel all the feelings, good and bad, or take a day to shut it all out. No matter how you choose to approach it (even on days when it truly gets the best of you) it’s not defeating you.
This check-in is coming a bit late due to Thanksgiving last week, and all the Black Friday craziness. BUT, It’s official: we’ve entered the holiday season! I hope you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving. Part of me is really excited because I absolutely love this time of year. But another part of me is somewhat solemn knowing that my favorite part of the holidays is sharing in the fun activities with my husband.
WOAHHHH We’re halfway there! Sorry, I had to.
This week officially marks five months since we started this crazy journey. It also marks the change into Fall; another season that I’ll miss sharing with my husband. But I have to admit, it’s exciting to see another season come and go, knowing that we’re only that much closer to homecoming. Continue reading