Dealing With Emergencies While Your Spouse Is Deployed

Among the many situations we are faced with in military life, it’s hard to have an answer or plan for everything. I’m a textbook over-thinker, but even after going over every possible scenario, I’ve been taken by surprise a time or two. Kyle and I have always worked as a team to overcome the obstacles and challenges of a busy schedule, and the common inconveniences that come up. We’ve discussed the possible emergencies we could face, and multiple ways for dealing with them. Continue reading “Dealing With Emergencies While Your Spouse Is Deployed”

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10 Myths About The National Guard and Reserve Lifestyle

I’ve put off writing this for a long time, for a lot of reasons. As the SO of an Army  National Guard soldier, I’ve gotten a lot of questions about what he does and how it’s different. I’ve also gotten a lot of assumptions thrown at me about what people believe he doesn’t do. So allow me to set the record straight, and give some credit to the other Guard/Reserve families out there. Here are the 10 myths I’ve heard about the National Guard and Reserve lifestyles. Continue reading “10 Myths About The National Guard and Reserve Lifestyle”

4 Communication Challenges That Military Families Face

Sitting in my room, with tears streaming down my face, I couldn’t understand how we got here. How did we go from a loving, carefree couple to the type of people who would yell at each other? How did we lose ourselves in separation, and worry, and stress? I went over it all again and again in my head, and no matter how hard I searched for the answers, I couldn’t find them. Continue reading “4 Communication Challenges That Military Families Face”

Basic Military Training: How To Prepare For Family Day and Graduation

When Kyle left for Basic Training, I was only a Sophomore in college. At the time, it felt like the hardest thing we would ever overcome. I felt so overwhelmed and worried, and it was incredibly difficult to accept that I no longer had control over our lives. I said goodbye to him in a parking lot, outside of the hotel he would be staying at with the others. The next morning, he boarded a plane to Fort Benning, and there was no turning back.  Continue reading “Basic Military Training: How To Prepare For Family Day and Graduation”

How To Deal: 10 Things I’ve Learned Since Becoming A MilSo

It was a hot August day, and we had just arrived on base for our very first Family Day. I was so excited to see all of the other wives, girlfriends, sisters and mothers that were gathered, with children running all over the place. I thought, “This is going to be great! I finally get to meet people outside of his work.” Kyle had been welcomed into his new unit in February 2014, and had gotten to know the other soldiers really well in the last 6-7 months. But I had only seen them in passing, and I was eager to get to know everyone. Continue reading “How To Deal: 10 Things I’ve Learned Since Becoming A MilSo”

All The Things We Forget About Deployment

The ‘D’ word can be a pretty dark subject among many military families, and I can’t say that ours is an exception. Deployment carries so many other things with it: separation, anxiety, loneliness, “danger”, etc. We worry about everything, from staying safe at home alone, to the many thing that could happen to our loved one. Whether it’s 6 months or a year, it’s hard to look past the days, weeks, and months as they build up before our eyes. It’s hard to accept that our lives together are on hold, while our lives as individuals continue on.  Continue reading “All The Things We Forget About Deployment”

15 Years

Fifteen years ago yesterday, millions of Americans started their day like they would any other. Children began their morning of classes, businesses opened their doors, and nearly 2600 people entered the World Trade Center for the last time. At the same time, 125 employees of the Pentagon began their final day of work. Mere hours later, 246 people boarded 4 different planes, and as they reached their final destinations, the world was forever changed. It was a beautiful Tuesday, forever darkened by the events that would occur.  Continue reading “15 Years”

Sending Packages Overseas: 4 Common Issues And How To Avoid Them

About a week ago, I sent my first package overseas to my brother who is deployed in the Middle East. I had never sent one before, but I had many tips and pieces of advice to follow from those who have. I thought I was fully prepared, and with everything packed up, I left the precious package in the hands of the USPS and waited the 2 weeks for him to receive it. The package contained some simple items, all of which were acceptable according to customs’ restricted list. It contained a phone charger, hand warmers, books, a thermos, and some other simple items. We were so excited to hear from him because I know he really looked forward to getting mail. I knew it would make his week so much better. Continue reading “Sending Packages Overseas: 4 Common Issues And How To Avoid Them”

What It Means To Love A Military Man

When I was a senior in high school, I decided to take an accounting class to better my real-world knowledge. I didn’t want to be stuck in calculus like the rest of my friends, because I would never be using that in the real world. I wanted to know how to balance a checkbook, take out a loan, buy my first car, etc. I wanted the real deal.

My first day of class, a tall, bald man stood at the front of the room scribbling our assignments on the whiteboard. He was thin, and stood so straight that it made his small frame appear larger. He turned to us as we all got seated, and went over the expectations for the trimester. He was clear, direct, and extremely stern despite the comical smirk that often flashed across his face. And if he hadn’t told all of us that first day, I would have never known he was military.  Continue reading “What It Means To Love A Military Man”

4 Ways That Social Media Glorifies Military Relationships

As a blogger, especially one that focuses on the military lifestyle, I’ve always aimed to be nothing but honest. I’ve never wanted to mislead any of my readers, especially those who are here seeking answers and guidance. It’s impossible to find what you’re truly searching for when every post and article points you in a different direction. The most honest information comes from those who have experienced this lifestyle. We didn’t just witness what it’s like; we have lived it.. Continue reading “4 Ways That Social Media Glorifies Military Relationships”